Happy Birthday to My Wife

Today is my wife’s birthday.  We met right around her 21st birthday when we were in college.  Her sorority sisters can tell you about that night.  She loves techie things, so we got her an Apple watch.  We will see how it works out.

I think that a lot of people are afraid of marriage.  They believe the false stat about 50% of all marriages ending in divorce.  If you split the stats though, the odds against a marriage ending in divorce go down significantly if someone has a college education. If I look at our friend group, there are relatively few divorces.  Ironically, I knew more divorced couples in the city versus the suburbs where we lived.

In our case, we met senior year.  Both of us were marketing majors in the College of Business at Illinois.  I remember the day I first saw her in my BA 374 class, Operations Research.  Neither of us intended to get married but we stayed together after college.  She likes to say that I was supposed to be a senior year diversion.   For me, it’s a good thing we did.  I married my best friend.

People are delaying marriage.  My wife and I got married when she was 24 and I had just turned 25.  We certainly didn’t have anything figured out.  Both of us had corporate jobs when we got engaged.  I quit my job soon after getting engaged to become a runner on the trading floor.  Runners made $150 per week gross.  Her parents weren’t too thrilled with my decision, but it has worked out so far.

I read Joanne Wilson’s post the other day.  Women have it tougher.   Their best child bearing years are between the ages of 18-30.  But, that’s when you go to school, grad school, get out of the starting blocks for your career.  Inherent conflicts.  Joanne has been very transparent about these kinds of issues on her blog.  I think college is an excellent time to find someone to spend the rest of your life with.  Ironically, she met her husband when they were in college too.

In our case, we had a tough choice to make after having our first daughter.  My wife was  a top salesperson and was earning a decent income.  I was still establishing myself as a trader-and had only been trading 2.5 years.  We had an old house that we had rehabbed in a great neighborhood.  My wife made the choice to stay home with the kids and not do the daycare route.  It’s one of the reasons I love Nextkids.

We had our kids by the time she was 31.  Now they are 24 and 22.  Personally, I would not want to be in my 60’s with kids in their twenties. It’s a lot of fun now. Tonight, the Carter family will be in front of a television watching the Cubs.   Let’s hope they win.

(and a Happy Birthday to Beth Feely who is pictured here. My wife shares a birthday with her)

A photo posted by Jeff Carter (@pointsnfigures) on

  • Lisa

    Thanks for the birthday post! Yes, my senior diversion turned into a lifelong adventure. Couldn’t be happier! xo

  • Sam Rosen

    Happy birthday, Lisa! You’re one of a kind and I’m so glad that our paths have crossed.

  • That’s a great post, Jeff.
    Happy many more to Lisa and you and your family.

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