The Myth of “The Corporate Wife”

Last night I recoiled at FOX News correspondent Juan Williams comment about Mitt Romney’s wife Ann. He said, “She is a corporate wife”. Upon further questioning he intimated that she was a “kept woman”. I know the “corporate wife” sitting next to me in my apartment dropped her jaw and sighed in disgust.

Except I didn’t work for a corporation. That adds an element of risk that isn’t there with corporate life.

The US to me was always about freedom and choice. Isn’t that the main point of pro-abortion activists, that women should be free to choose? I can’t speak for Ann Romney’s choice. But, she raised five boys and did a lot of charity work outside the home. I suspect she was pretty busy.

My own family isn’t dissimilar. Maybe Juan Williams might feel differently. My wife was one of the top salespeople in her division of the multi-national company she worked for. After we had our first child, she kept working and we tried the day care thing. But we didn’t like it, and she chose to stay home and raise our kids. We didn’t have five boys, but had two girls.

As my wife says, “Who better than to raise the next generation than a college educated person that loves them?”. My wife has a business degree from the University of Illinois’ College of Business.

Women who choose to stay home don’t have a life of bon bons and cherries. They deal with a lot of problems foreign to women that work-and deal with the constant assault of messaging that tells them they made the wrong choice. Women will get out of parenting what they put into it. If they tell themselves they hate it, and choose to be unhappy-they’ll be unhappy. Many women I know that chose to stay home said it was the most fulfilling experience of their lives.

But the point is not to judge. Every women makes the choice that is best for them and their family. If they choose to stay home, great. If they choose the tenuous balance of work/life/kids, that’s okay too. It’s the United States and we ought to be free to choose what we want to do. People shouldn’t try to pigeon hole us into convenient gerrymandered slots that they can try to exploit for their own gain.

Juan’s characterization is rooted in myth. Even the corporate wives that you see in Mad Men didn’t have it easy. Women that stay home lose control over income. They make a bargain that the person they married will provide income, while they make the rest of their lives go smoothly. That’s why Ann Romney said after a tough day men sigh, and women sigh longer.

Women are under assault all over the place in our current culture. I see it all the time and experience it through both of my daughters and my wife. Crap, in high school and colleges, men don’t even know how to date anymore. Many are so afraid of rejection they don’t know how to even ask. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen a beautiful women walking down the street in Chicago next to a guy who barely has taken a shower. I shake my head.

Women need to feel safe with any choice they make and guys…guys need to grow a pair.

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  • doowleb

    I think it is clear that Juan calling Ann Romney a “corporate wife” was racist code for ‘rich white woman’. It’s time we expect the same behaviour from the left on racial discussions as is demanded of the right.

    • radioone

      “racist code for ‘rich white woman” I agree and will add he also thinks they are “The Stepford Wives”.

  • conservative61

    Fifty percent of anything Williams’ says is rooted in liberal myth. The other 50% is rooted in plain old stupidity. I personally like Juan Williams, but he’s been supping at the liberal kool-aid far too long to be worth listening to.

  • Ezra Gonzalez

    William’s stupid comment reflects badly on ALL stay at home parents. I’m a father who stays home with the kids while my wife works her corporate job, and I can tell you that I only wish my own father could have had the time with me that I get with my kids. The left would have us all putting our children in government-run care facilities and spoon-fed exact doses of whatever the government decided they needed.

    I love being around my kids especially in the summer, and one day they will take their place in adult society and hopefully be the well rounded individuals I raised them to be. Williams is a bigot and a slug, and his comments are political pap that should get him retired from FoxNews.

    • pointsnfigures

      I don’t find Juan Williams bigoted, but I disagree with him a lot.

  • Anastasia Mather

    I especially appreciate the last sentence. I have two daughters of marriageable age who want someone similar to their Dad – a Man who stood by me and them, worked hard for them, loved them, fought for them and just manned up in general. These young men are very very few and far between.

    • pointsnfigures

      I think they are out there but they have had some miseducation as to what it means to be a man.

  • stealthpundit

    My wife and I also chose to have her stay home and raise our two daughters. This also meant chosing to drive older cars, to not have exotic vacations (though we’ve managed a couple of nice trips) and to forego some of the luxuries that some friends and families were able to afford with both parents working. But when I look at the wonderful young women that my daughters have grown to be reminds me of how transient cars, vacations and other things can be and how enduring good parenting is. I feel fortunate that we could make this choice and wish that everyone had the same opportunity to choose as well. To denigrate this choice as Mr Williams did is not only cruel and unnecessary but also ignorant of patience and energy that goes into full time parenting.

    • pointsnfigures

      Agree. My daughters have dated some pretty good guys so far. Supposedly they are scared of me. That’s why there is a deer head on the wall and guns in the closet! Just kidding boys…..

    • gtwreck

      Well Said. My wife and I also made the decision to have her stay home when our first child was born and she did not work until the third and last one went to college. Best decision we ever made. Two doctors and a financial analyst are testament to that decision not to mention the wise decisions they made when they picked their spouses. It’s a great way to raise a family.
      The old cars, dinners at home and untaken vacations were worth it. Wonder if Juan would call a middle class immigrant’s wife a corporate wife. Juan is a partisan class racist to the bone

  • John Butala III

    Juan’s ignorant racism is showing through. How many other labels does he have in his basket of slights against rich white women?

    • pointsnfigures

      Don’t think it was racism, but lack of understanding.

      • obloodyhell

        No, it was not just racism, but sexism, and ummm, no word for it — “partisanism”. A sneer at someone solely for their political beliefs.

  • pabarge

    Sir, has anyone done any investigation into Juan Williams’ wife? Just saying …

    • pointsnfigures

      No, and they shouldn’t. She should be free to choose the life she wants to lead without any judgement from society.

      • pabarge

        Which one of Saul Alinsky’s 12 Rules for Radicals did you miss?

        • pointsnfigures

          I don’t consider Juan a radical, he is part of the chattering class. Obama is a radical.

          • obloodyhell

            Face it. They’re ALL two-faced, lying assholes.

  • Rick Caird

    The “Corporate Wife” comment does not seem to be an “off the cuff” remark. This one Williams came up with and was holding for Ann Romney’s speech. Premeditated.

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  • elj

    Most Fox News viewers feel good will toward Juan because of the persecution he went through and because he has been part of the Fox News “family” for a long time.

    But Juan damaged this good will last night by disparaging Ann Romney personally.

    • pointsnfigures

      I think he was echoing thoughts from the left, and that transparency is a good thing

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  • et al raleigh

    Juan Williams and Chris Matthews … now that would be a marriage made in Heaven . Dear Leader would preside over the nuptial ceremonies and offer blessings and free , periodic Health Care brains scans to determine who gets to use the Remote when Oprah isn’t being aired .

  • Nonameworks

    Funny how the bigots and racists just can not keep their mouths shut.
    Judgmentalism and envy envelopes them and they see and speak nothing else.

  • Bandit

    Juan’s just doing his job carrying water for Obama. If only Ann Romney had some makey fake believe handout ‘community affairs’ job for 300k.

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  • may

    A woman in the house is not just the
    mark of a rich family, it is the loss of a 2-worker family. The
    Democratic machine always needs more worker bees because they mean more union members (paying required
    dues), more tax money (to transfer
    to someone else), and more assets
    (to confiscate when you die). A 2-worker family doubles their drones and
    doubles their earnings.

    Democrats most definitely believe in
    equality of opportunity: EVERYONE should be out of the house working and
    giving the government its 50% – not just men. Just like any pimp,
    Democrats hate to see their workers not working.

  • comatus

    Others have nailed the lid on already. I’ll speak only to your penultimate paragraph, which raises a new issue. One of the things those “corporate” wives did, and feminists didn’t notice, was to make most of the culture’s value judgments, from their position of power as chooser of mate and founder of family. When I see an ugly McMansion on a lot too big to mow and too small to plow, my first thought is that no man would do that to himself. His wife wanted that. A lot of “house keeper” jokes start out like that.

    When value judgments were a matter of survival, women developed what you might call “more conservative” tastes, both in architecture and in men. And generally speaking, Miss Francon, there are two types of marble.

  • JMark

    JC: Sure, don’t judge women for the path they choose, but PLEASE DO judge their results; and I’ll go first. Judge my wife and me on the quality of the friends who step into our home and the quality of the kids who step out of it. We’re not done raising ours yet, but we went into this with the expectation that each of the kids’ ages would be better than the last, and you know what? They have been. Though not without challenges, and we have nothing to say when peers kvetch about terrible twos, teen girl years, etc. And that ditch under the house for the first few boyfriends just keeps getting deeper.
    Juan shot off his mouth, and though not quite as stupid as Akin’s remarks last week, really stepped on his crank with this one.

    • pointsnfigures

      That’s a great point.

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  • Sukie Tawdry

    My mother was a “corporate wife.” Know what it meant for her? For many years as my father climbed the corporate ladder in the automobile business, it meant packing up on an average of once a year and moving away from friends (and occasionally family) to start over again in a new city. By the time I was 13, we had moved 13 times. My mother was the queen of improvisation as she strove to provide us kids with the semblance of a normal life often from our temporary quarters in hotels. Was she “taken care of”? Yeah. Was it easy? Hell, no. Life was chaotic and a constant challenge for this particular corporate wife.

    • pointsnfigures

      people forget that working for a big company can be similar to being an army brat.

  • Gmama

    Juan must think a better choice would have been a plum “one-percenter” patronage job like Michelle Obama had. Michelle’s Chicago gig which she was handed after Obama because an IL legislator, paid over $100K, when he became a senator her salary almost TRIPLED to over $300K. Of course, Mr. Obama funneled over a million bucks of taxpayer money to the hospital. While Mrs. Obama held that job she also landed a position on the board of Tree House Foods, even though she had no experience in such a corporation, where she was paid around 50K plus $75K in stock options. Instead of the cabbage slaw sandwiches Mrs. Obama pushes on helpless children who visit the WH, Tree House is a supplier for McDonald’s and makes a variety of highy processed foods.

    Now, while her husband isn’t whining about her lack of a salary as FLOTUS, she is spending taxpayer money on lavish vacations for friends and family, and even sends her pre-teen daughter off the Mexico for Spring Break, a trip that must have cost hundreds of thousands of tax dollars.

    • pointsnfigures

      Can you imagine a post presidency Obama income?

  • S H

    messed up on many levels. When you game it out / think it through different points they all come out bad….

  • Michael Mainello

    Liberals celebrate single, stay at home mothers, I guess they just have trouble when the father stays in the picutre.

  • topperj

    How many people were suckered into feeling bad for Williams during that PBS kerfuffle over Muslims? He is, and always will be, a progressive and a racist.

    • pointsnfigures

      He is not a racist. He is a progressive.

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